Löysin taas loistavan pätkän viisautta (liittyen ihmissuhteissa etenemiseen, ulkoa tuleviin paineisiin ja sisäänrakennettuihin käsityksiin siitä, miten asioiden pitäisi mennä), via Metafilter:
I also struggle with my constant thinking about "What's next?". The best advice I can give you is from Kurt Vonnegut:
And now I want to tell you about my late Uncle Alex. He was my father’s kid brother, a childless graduate of Harvard who was an honest life insurance salesman in Indianapolis. He was well-read and wise. And his principal complaint about other human beings was that they so seldom noticed it when they were happy. So when we were drinking lemonade under an apple tree in the summer, say, and talking lazily about this and that, almost buzzing like honeybees, Uncle Alex would suddenly interrupt the agreeable blather to exclaim, ''If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.''

So I do the same now, and so do my kids and grandkids. And I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ''If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.''

Recognize and value the good parts of the relationship and try to not think about external normative "milestones".

Eli muista tunnistaa suhteessasi olevat hyvät asiat ja arvostaa niitä, äläkä mieti normien mukaista etenemistä. (Lisää suuria ajatuksia: 1, 2, 3, 4.)

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